Breakup Letters:What you need to Know and How to Deal With Them
August 22, 2009 in Dating by Paul Lindquist
Breakup letters are not necessarily the ideal way to handle a split in your relationship. Your first priority should be to do it in person. Be extremely clear in your mind about the fact that you want to end the relationship.
Don’t forget also to communicate to your partner why you want to end things, so that you don’t lose your nerve in your face to face meeting and botch the break up-if you allow that to happen, you will end up in a situation where neither party knows if the relationship is on or off.
If you really can’t do it in person, for whatever reason, then the next best option is with breakup letters. Not break up phone calls, break up text messages or break up emails- but breakup letters, written by your own hand on actual paper.
If you decide to go with break up letters, there are certain guidelines you should follow. When writing, make sure the letter is clear and to the point, and not too long. Be as clear as you can about why you want to break up.
Be polite, firm and honest about their role in it as well as your own. And throughout, imagine how you would feel on receiving a breakup letter so you can ‘tone it down’ with them a little, no matter how hurt or angry or upset you may feel at the moment.
Make certain that your soon to be ex receives the breakup letter. You can deliver it in person if you have the guts, or you can either have a friend you trust deliver it or send it registered or certified mail, so you know for sure it was received.
If you find yourself on the receiving side of breakup letters, the best thing to do is keep your cool. I realize that whatever the letter might say, your initial reaction will be to get them on the phone and yell at them.
DON’T react this way no matter what the situation. Your partner probably has a good excuse for not meeting you in person to announce that they want to separate. Be respectful of that decision. Take a few days to digest what just happened and get your thoughts together.
Don’t show desperation by an immediate reaction to break up letters. Maybe you don’t want the break up at all. Even so, you need to show maturity and an willingness to accept what they want and move forward.
Who knows, they may be piqued enough to come back a little bit closer, they might even decide that their breakup letter was a mistake and restore the relationship. This is why your initial reaction is crucial.
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